17 Nov Using the Purple Tier to Sharpen Your 7 Habits
Just when we were looking forward to “graduating” into California’s COVID-19 “ORANGE Tier,” Governor Newsom pulled an “emergency brake,” sending the residents of 41 California counties – and 94% of its population – back into the “PURPLE Tier.” And just in case you’ve forgotten, that means, for starters: “school campuses that have not yet reopened for in-person instruction will have to continue offering distance learning until infection rates improve.”
For months we’ve heard about the challenges parents are having balancing their own Work from Home, while trying to help their children with their school work. Of course, this particular hardship doesn’t impact all of ABL’s CEO Members, yet chances are strong that it does impact a large number of their employees. So, with a nod to Stephen Covey’s business bestseller, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, ABL’s favorite “stretch,” psychiatrist Mark Goulston, MD, provides us with a “silver lining” to the pandemic’s “Purple Time”: behaviors those WFH can share with their kids who are LFH:
The 7 Habits of Superbly Raised Children
- Feel frustrated and/or disappointed without getting overly angry
- Keep trying something hard instead of quitting
- Stay focused on something important
- Cheerfully do something you don’t want to do
- Focus on the positive of a situation instead of the negative
- Smile about something
- Do something for, thank, congratulate or apologize to someone – thinking, “How will this help them to be successful and happy?”
Mark also suggests that kids who display the opposite of these habits – including throwing tantrums when they feel frustrated and/or disappointed, quitting as soon as something becomes too hard, or getting distracted easily instead of staying focused on what is important, are certain to make their parents miserable, if not themselves.
So, best of all, Mark has 6 recommendations for making these “7 habits” work, based on the results of a number of families who’ve reported on their favorable results:
How to Make the 7 Habits Work for Your Entire Family
- Write down each of the 7 Habits on seven separate pieces of folded paper
- Each day one family member selects one of the pieces of paper and reads it aloud
- During that day every member will commit and then do that behavior
- At the end of the day each person will share what they did to put that behavior into action and how that felt
- At the end of seven days each family member will share what their favorite action was and why and what it taught them
- Mix the slips of paper up and repeat every week until these habits become internalized into your children… and you
As you may have detected, to derive the greatest value from the 7 Habits, everyone in the family needs to participate, and commit to the “behavior of the day,” every day. Frankly, you don’t need to have a household full of stay-at-home-kids to make this program have value.
Whether you use Dr. Mark’s “7 Habits of Superbly Raised Children,” or Stephen Covey’s “7 Habits of Highly Effective People,” or Benjamin Franklin’s “13 Virtues” that he used to train his good habits, or a list that’s all your own, while we’re stuck in the Purple Tier, there could be no better time to ingrain your good habits to last a lifetime.
By Mimi Grant, President, Adaptive Business Leaders (ABL) Organization – Round Tables and Events for CEOs of Technology and Healthcare Companies